Eulogy is a speech at a funeral service to recollect the life and achievements of the perished. The best eulogies come from the heart and are written and delivered by someone close to the perished, so it doesn’t need perfect sentence structure or grammar to be a good eulogy. Amount of information you are going to include in the eulogy will be based on how long the perished lived, how eventful their life was, and how well their achievements were known to others. Try to gather information from the perished friends, relatives and colleagues to build up a picture of their life. Be sure to include memorable events such as marriage, births of children, honours received, distinguished service, and major achievements, whether personal or professional.
Eulogy is a celebration of life, but it’s not a whitewash, so if anything went wrong in the perished’s life, it’s okay to include it, as long as it will not embarrass or distress those close to him. Ask yourself if you would be happy if a similar event in your life was made public. If the answer’s yes, then include it. Include some of your own shared rememberings of the perished. It makes a bond between yourself and the congregation, and identifies you as someone close to the perished. It’s okay to put a humorous slant on events if it’s appropriate. You may be grieving for the perished, but you’re also remembering them as they are in life. Again, it’s helpful to organize your memories into a document ready for inclusion in the eulogy.
Once you have gathered all the necessary informations for the eulogy, sift through it to see what can be discarded, and remove any repetitions. Organize these informations into a document format.
Decide whether Poems or other writings?
If the perished had a favorite poem or writing, you can quote from it or read it in its entirety as part of the eulogy. Or ask someone to written a poem with the perished as a subject, either during their lifetime or since their death. If you are creatively leant yourself, you may even consider writing a memorial poem, but don’t place yourself under too much pressure.
Now you’re fortified with memories and facts of perished, it’s time to organize it all into a eulogy speech. Start with a brief summary of the perished person’s life, including major highlights, special family events and achievements. Now move on to personal memories and anecdotes from friends and family. Strike a balance between the humorous and the respectful – this is someone’s life you’re summarizing, and his nearest and dearest are listening to everything you say.
Eulogy is the last thing you can do for your perished friend or relative. Write and speak from the heart, and celebrate the perished’s life and achievements with a mixture of humour and solemnity, and your eulogy will be remembered long after the funeral.