When a part of you can't speak in public, apply a part of you that can
We are all multi-faceted personalities. No one is totally, consistently in the same frame of mind all the time. Sometimes you're up, sometimes down. Sometimes you prefer to do things a certain way, at other times you want to try a new approach. Every day you make unconscious decisions about which facet of your personality to apply in any given situation. These decisions are within your control.